Doug:
My father was a sailor on the USS Arizona (one of the survivors). Later in the war, his ship was stuck by a Kamikaze plane. He spent a year in Seattle Naval Hosptial in recovery. He lost his hearing in one ear. He had as much reason to hate the Japanese as anyone, yet he did not. When I married a Japanese, he welcomed her into the family and loved her dearly. I guess the difference was in the man.
The Japanese WWII goverment was as harmful to their own people as they were their enemies. My wife's father was educated in the US and opposed the Japanese WWII government. He refused to serve in the Japanese military and was executed as a traitor in 1944.
It was a hard, difficult time for eveyone. But to hate and blame all Japanese (or Germans and Italians) for the evil things their governments did is wrong.